tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4078758128653857431.post781773794649751026..comments2023-05-28T04:58:24.942-04:00Comments on His Kitten: Locked From the InsideKittenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17154453068922306436noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4078758128653857431.post-36077549306690363352008-09-11T11:58:00.000-04:002008-09-11T11:58:00.000-04:00Thank you all for your comments. Each one has hel...Thank you all for your comments. Each one has helped me reflect on the last couple of posts and I have come to some very helpful conclusions. I am very lucky to have such thoughtful readers and commenters :-)<BR/><BR/>That said, I think that Jess, Rob and Carly have it right: I know that I can leave, in the sense that I can physically leave if I want and that legally he cannot keep me. But the control is more mental and it is not a negative thing. Knowing that he will always own me, be responsible for me, and keep his connection to me is wonderful not scary. <BR/><BR/>Frank, I do not have a safe word. There is no way that I can just switch off or opt out of our 24/7 dynamic. We do not say "start" or "stop" - it is continuous and it is a constant undercurrent in our lives.<BR/><BR/>Best,<BR/>KittenKittenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17154453068922306436noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4078758128653857431.post-27616557119691380202008-09-10T17:30:00.000-04:002008-09-10T17:30:00.000-04:00I have to respectfully disagree with latebloomer. ...I have to respectfully disagree with latebloomer. I know that it is desire and not fear, that makes you want to stay. I happen to think what he said is really really hot! I don't believe for a minute that he is afraid!<BR/>So....I think you're a strong girl and you'll be just fine. Both of you will be :-)<BR/>*gg*<BR/>CarlyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4078758128653857431.post-77585285082587759712008-09-09T19:28:00.000-04:002008-09-09T19:28:00.000-04:00It is not necessarily negative that he points out ...It is not necessarily negative that he points out that you have changed for good - he's probably right about that. And whilst you obviously can leave the relationship if you choose I get the sense that he feels a strong commitment to you and is looking for that commitment from you.<BR/><BR/>When you have been married for years and you know that you will always be together it isn't unusual for one to say to the other, 'you can never leave' - because that really is the truth. It is a relationship for life. So, I don't necessarily see it as scary, but intense.<BR/><BR/>RobAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4078758128653857431.post-67526140732772443732008-09-09T11:58:00.000-04:002008-09-09T11:58:00.000-04:00i find what you're writing about right now scary.....i find what you're writing about right now scary... idk what to say... it makes me nervous somehow... <BR/><BR/>i like to think that whatever choice i make must be the right one irregardless of the outcome because whatever happens happens for a reason right?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4078758128653857431.post-11352626143587109742008-09-09T07:44:00.000-04:002008-09-09T07:44:00.000-04:00How does a safe word factor in this. I can see th...How does a safe word factor in this. I can see the use of it in a scene, but in a 24 7 it does seem to make as much sense.<BR/><BR/>frankAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4078758128653857431.post-66334281281103248332008-09-08T22:20:00.000-04:002008-09-08T22:20:00.000-04:00Afer reading your blog, I think you know you can l...Afer reading your blog, I think you know you can leave. Assuming that, I think what he said is hot. :-)<BR/>-JessJessiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14272387772385413910noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4078758128653857431.post-80831509496155016062008-09-08T20:26:00.000-04:002008-09-08T20:26:00.000-04:00I hope you don't believe that for a minute.I think...I hope you don't believe that for a minute.I think you can always be free. You may not be the same person that you were before, but you would be fine after a fashion. Staying has to be a choice made out of desire not fear. If he is trying to intimidate you, he is the one who is afraid. You will find your way, whatever YOU choose. I am confident that you will work this out in a way that will be best, whether you stay or leave. There are lessons to learn from this experience, and I think you have the courage and strength to learn them. I have read your whole blog from the begining, and I wish you the best.latebloomerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07004038812985259251noreply@blogger.com