tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4078758128653857431.post8100105844948505061..comments2023-05-28T04:58:24.942-04:00Comments on His Kitten: RealignmentKittenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17154453068922306436noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4078758128653857431.post-77103166889510061262008-10-29T20:39:00.000-04:002008-10-29T20:39:00.000-04:00the thing is, labels suck. they just do. if i had ...the thing is, labels suck. they just do. if i had to list all the labels that might apply, you'd be appalled at the length of the list. but the funny thing is that lots of people wouldn't agree with it. <BR/><BR/>so really, it doesn't matter. to anyone but you, and him. my owner and i understand what we mean, and we use the terminology with others when it becomes necessary, but always with a wary eye to the fact that our conversants may *still* not be on the same page. <BR/><BR/>what you *should* do is what works. end of story. yay to you guys.luna_luxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10707792554259443893noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4078758128653857431.post-73829055409661233182008-10-28T14:38:00.000-04:002008-10-28T14:38:00.000-04:00You've been tagged!!My apologies, because you don'...You've been <A HREF="http://hisbytch.blogspot.com/2008/10/tag-youre-it.html" REL="nofollow">tagged</A>!!<BR/><BR/>My apologies, because you don't even know me... but while I may not be a vocal reader, I do follow your blog and find it fascinating.lalanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11419882205436762846noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4078758128653857431.post-22145162624986349772008-10-27T16:58:00.000-04:002008-10-27T16:58:00.000-04:00I, too, have struggled with doing something becaus...I, too, have struggled with doing something because it's what I think I "should" do. This ended up getting me in trouble with my Master when I expected him to respond a certain way or thought that we should do something based on what I'd read in a book or blog. I naturally look to be accepted in whatever situation I'm in(which ties into being submissive), but I wrongly looked for approval from people other than my Master. What really matters is what works for the 2 of you. Glad to hear that you're working on finding what's right for you, even if that just means small changes.<BR/><BR/>Also, to respond to the issue of a double standard, I know that my Master struggles with the issue himself. Sometimes, he'll take the "it's unequal and that's how it is" approach, but overall he tries to be fair, and he takes my needs/desires into consideration. It's not less dominant to get rid of a double standard (or whatever) that doesn't work. On the contrary, doing so means that He's taking care of you and turning the relationship into what he (and you) wants it to be.<BR/><BR/>...sorry my comment is almost as long as your post!Metahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11578787245371476220noreply@blogger.com